Epi #139. The 3 Qualities of an Emotionally Mature Parent

Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, your parenting just isn't working?

You're not alone.

Many parents feel stuck and unsure of how to move forward.

But there is hope. This blog is here to help you find the answers you need.

Today, we're going to talk about three important qualities of an emotionally mature parent.

These qualities can help you build a stronger bond with your children and create a happier home.

1. They Listen to Their Children

Listening is Key

One of the first qualities of an emotionally mature parent is that they listen to their children.

Instead of just expecting their kids to listen to them, they take the time to truly hear what their children are saying.

I remember a time when my son came home upset because he felt left out at school.

Instead of telling her to cheer up or distract him, I sat down with him and listened.

She told me how he felt, and I let him share his feelings without interrupting.

By listening, I helped my son feel heard and understood.

This made him feel safe and valued.

It also made our relationship stronger because he knew he could talk to me about anything.

Next time your child wants to talk, put away distractions like your phone or the TV.

Give them your full attention.

Show them that their feelings matter by nodding and making eye contact.

2. They Don't Take Their Children's Behaviors Personally

Understanding Behavior

The second quality is not taking your children's behaviors personally.

Emotionally mature parents understand that every behavior communicates a need.

They don't see misbehavior as a personal attack or a sign that they're failing as parents.

One evening, my son, Leo, threw a tantrum because he couldn't have his favorite toy at the store.

Instead of getting angry or labeling him as difficult, I recognized that he was feeling frustrated and needed help managing his emotions.

I calmly asked him what he was feeling and helped him find a better way to express his frustration.

By not taking his behavior personally, I was able to address his needs without escalating the situation.

This approach helps children learn healthier ways to express their feelings and reduces conflict.

When your child acts out, try to see the behavior as a way of communicating.

Ask yourself, "What might my child need right now?"

Addressing the need can lead to more effective solutions than simply reacting to the behavior.

3. They Feel Confident in Their Parenting and Don't Care About Others' Opinions

Confidence is Crucial

The third quality is feeling confident in your parenting and not caring about others' opinions.

Emotionally mature parents trust their instincts and don't let the judgments of others shake their confidence.

I used to worry a lot about what other parents thought of my parenting style.

I read every parenting book and watched countless videos, always trying to fit into what I thought was the "right" way.

But nothing seemed to work, and I felt like a terrible mom.

One day, I decided to focus on what worked best for my family instead of what others said.

This shift made me feel more confident and less stressed.

Limiting Belief #1: "If I don't follow what others say, I'm not doing a good job as a parent."

But the truth is, every family is unique.

What works for others might not work for you, and that's okay.

Limiting Belief #2: "Others know better than me how to raise my children."

You know your children best.

Trusting your instincts empowers you to make the right decisions for your family.

When you feel confident in your parenting, you create a positive environment for your children.

They see that you believe in them and trust their abilities, which boosts their confidence too.

Focus on what feels right for you and your children.

Let go of the need to please everyone else and build your confidence from within.

Remind yourself that you are doing your best, and that is enough.

4. Bringing It All Together

So, let's recap the three qualities of an emotionally mature parent:

1. They Listen to Their Children
2. They Don't Take Their Children's Behaviors Personally
3. They Feel Confident in Their Parenting and Don't Care About Others' Opinions

Since embracing these qualities, I've seen incredible changes in my household.

My children are more open, our conflicts are fewer, and our bond is stronger than ever.

By listening, understanding, and feeling confident, we've created a happier and more peaceful home.

If you're ready to develop these qualities and transform your parenting journey, I'd love to invite you to my Free Class 

What You'll Learn in the Free Class

In this class, you will:

✅ Overcome Angry Reactions: Learn our signature Parenting With Understanding system to have calm responses during your children’s chaos.

✅ Communicate Assertively: Gain an understanding of what you need to communicate so your children listen to you even when you give them a 'no.'

✅ Raise Emotionally Healthy Children: Know what is needed to raise kids who can face the real world with confidence and self-accountability.

Imagine the Change

Imagine ending your day feeling proud of how you handled tough moments.

You and your child deserve that peace and connection.

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Thank you for taking the time to read about these important parenting qualities.

I hope these insights help you in your parenting journey.

Remember, every step you take towards understanding and connecting with your children makes a big difference.

You are doing a great job, and you are not alone.

Keep going, and don't hesitate to reach out if you need support.

Marcela Collier

HIC Parenting

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