Epi #75. Tools for the Tired, Touched Out Parent 💪😴

Every day as a parent is a heartwarming journey filled with the sweet chirrups of our children, their tight hugs, and little pecks. 

But amidst these beautiful moments, there are times when parents feel worn out, seeking a moment of solace and personal space. 

If you often feel overwhelmed and 'touched out,' understanding your sensory needs and the childhood wounds of rejection might be the keys to reclaiming your balance.

Parental Sensory Needs: Beyond the Surface

It's not just about the physical touch. At the heart of this exhaustion is an intricate dance of sensory overload and past emotional baggage.

🔍 Understanding Sensory Overwhelm: We are designed to respond to our children's cues, but a constant barrage of sensory inputs – from their touch to their voice – can lead to feeling overwhelmed. 

This might result in feelings of wanting to retreat or, at times, an unexpected burst of irritation.

Carrying the Weight of Past Rejection

From our childhood, many of us bear the scars of rejection. 

This past pain can sometimes push us to overcompensate in our parenting, desperately seeking acceptance through endless giving, often at the cost of our own needs and well-being.

1. Acknowledge Your Sensory Boundaries

🌱 Daily Introspection: Pause and introspect. Are there specific triggers that make you feel more overwhelmed? Recognizing them is the first step toward addressing them.

2. Navigating Sensory Overload

🌳 Nature's Embrace: Regular walks amidst greenery can provide a sensory break, a chance to recharge.

🎧 Silence, Please: Invest in noise-canceling headphones for those moments you crave quietude.

🌸 Soothing Aromas: Essential oils like lavender can act as a sensory balm, calming your frayed nerves.

3. Healing Emotional Scars

📖 Pour Your Heart Out: Through journaling, trace back your feelings, identifying triggers linked to past emotional wounds.

💬 Parenting Coaching: A coaching space can help you navigate and make peace with your past, ensuring they don't seep into your parenting. Click here to apply for HIC Parenting Coaching 

4. Embrace Mindfulness and Set Boundaries

🧘‍♀️ Stay Present: Techniques like meditation can anchor you to the present, preventing past traumas from overshadowing current experiences.

🚫 Teach Boundaries: Educate your children about personal boundaries, ensuring they respect moments when you need a sensory break. If your children are small, we encourage you to build a support system of relatives, neighbors, teachers, etc…

Your Next Steps Forward

Feeling 'touched out' doesn't make you less loving or devoted as a parent. 

It's merely a reminder that you have needs, too. 

Sign up for our Break The Yelling Cycle Self-Paced Course for a deeper dive into mastering your calm.

You will: 

💡 Module 1: Understanding the Yelling Cycle: You will learn why you can't stop yelling, even when trying to stay calm. Understand why this keeps happening so you can course-correct it before it’s too late. (It’s not about taking more breaths or breaks.)

💡 Module 2: Tools for Instant Calm: Acquire actionable techniques to instantly regain your composure during heated moments with your children, ensuring your reactions align with the values you wish to impart.

💡 Module 3: Reconnect and Heal: I will show you the exact things to do and say to your children 0-19 years old to make things right after you've yelled, bringing them closer and ensuring they always feel loved and understood.

💡This mini-course includes 3 Modules with video classes, three workbooks, and recorded coaching calls with parents looking to break free from yelling. 

Tune into our latest podcast for real-life examples and strategies for regaining peace and ease. Your journey to more serene days with your kids begins here 💖🌿.